Ustadhah, my friend is searching for a righteous spouse and she has received a proposal from a student of knowledge. After praying the prayer of consulting Allah (istikharah) she says that she is not satisfied with his ways and a few people have impacted negatively about him. Now she feels that they are not compatible, even though she is happy about his religious commitment, and she doesn’t have tranquility about this matter hence she is unable to decide. What should she do?
In marriage the girl needs to feel comfortable with the man who proposed. Not only because a person has knowledge or is a student of knowledge and he prays in masjid (mosque) and leaves his beard means that he is a good person. She needs to ensure that he is applying the manners of Islam and that he is acting upon the knowledge he learned.This is the first step.
Then if he seems to be a good practicing Muslim she should pray the prayer of consulting Allah (isthikhara) and see how she feels. If she cannot stand him because their souls do not match and she finds herself not liking him, then she can refuse.
If the problem is regarding incompetence in social standard or money wise then my advice to her is to try to accept him because religion is more important and valuable, and when she consults any person she needs to consult a pious, wise person and if her parents are religious then she takes their opinion.