May Allah bless you and reward you for your efforts. I know a sister whose mother is forcing her to marry a brother she is not pleased with. She has told her mother many times that she does not agree. Her mother thinks that the sister must obey her. Her mother supported her claim with the seerah of the salaf, for an example, parents have the right to choose who they want their daughter to marry. The brother’s manhaj (methodology) is questionable. He claims he listens to the Scholars of this era but he shows otherwise. His close friends are hizbis and he takes from whomever he deems good (Mukhtar Ash-Shinqeeti, Muhammad Al-Munajjid, etc). The only solution the sister has to escape from this is to tell her mother that she wants to take a break from all of this and wants to focus on bettering herself. The sister is clueless. She wants to know how can she advise her mother and if she should obey her mother in this. The sister’s mother will not take heed, advice, or fataawa from the internet because the mother thinks they may be wrong. The advice coming from you or any of the Scholars will be useful. In shaa Allah. Baarak Allahu feekum.
There is a hadith in Bukhari and Muslim where the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
حَدَّثَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَيْسَرَةَ الْقَوَارِيرِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدُ بْنُ الْحَارِثِ، حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامٌ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَبِي كَثِيرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو سَلَمَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ” لاَ تُنْكَحُ الأَيِّمُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْمَرَ وَلاَ تُنْكَحُ الْبِكْرُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْذَنَ ” . قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَكَيْفَ إِذْنُهَا قَالَ ” أَنْ تَسْكُتَ ” .
“A woman without a husband, divorced, or a widow must not be married until she is consulted. A virgin must not be married until her permission is sought.” They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon him):
“How can her (i.e. the virgin) consent be solicited?” He (the Prophet) said:
“She keeps silent.”
The Scholars (one of them being Sheikh Ibn Baz) said, “The correct opinion regarding this issue is that a girl should not be married except by her permission.”
All the Scholars of the salaf warned from marrying a man who has any deviation or any bidah because a man has influence and authority over his wife. He will probably take her with him in his deviation and this has been vividly seen. I advise her not to marry a person with bidah under any circumstances. I heard several fatawa from Scholars saying to a woman who married to a man with bidah to get a divorce from him. I saw this fatawa given by Imam Al Albani, Sheikh Zaid Al-Madkhalli, and Sheikh Muhammad Akkour.