There’s a sister that has a 5 year old, a 7 year old and a 13 year old children. When they do not listen to her, she would hit them in order to discipline them. Sometimes she beats them on the head and face. Is she allowed to discipline them this way? And at what age are kids allowed to be hitten?
First she needs to repent asking Allah’s forgiveness willing never to do this again. There is a hadith prohibiting to hit on the face.
Scholars say that children should not be punished by hitting them before 10 years. And hitting is not the first option, you need to try several correcting actions first before hitting. Also hitting should not be for revenge, it should be for reforming. So make sure not to hit them while you are angry or outrageous.
Make sure to hit them without cruelty, there should be no traces on their skin. And take care because the Shaytan will try to take charge and manipulate you to hit your child severely. Do not give him this chance.
Those who do not have mercy will be deprived from Allah’s mercy. Ask Allah to put mercy in your heart.