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The ruling on hitting children for not praying

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Question:

It was new knowledge to me that even at ten years of age,we should beat kids only with siwak. May you please clarify the ruling on this? May Allah reward you with goodness.

Zaynab El-Kateb:

Shaikh Ibn Al-Uthaymin said regarding hitting the children for not praying:

” لا يضرب ضرباً مبرحاً ، ولا يضرب على الوجه مثلاً ، ولا على المحل القاتل ، وإنما يضرب على الظهر أو الكتف أو ما أشبه ذلك مما لا يكون سبباً في هلاكه . والضرب على الوجه له خطره ؛ لأن الوجه أعلى ما يكون للإنسان وأكرم ما يكون على الإنسان ، وإذا ضرب عليه أصابه من الذل والهوان أكثر مما لو ضرب على ظهره ، ولهذا نهي عن الضرب على الوجه ” انتهى .

“فتاوى نور على الدرب” (13/2)

Meaning:
The child should not be beaten in a painful way, and the face should be avoided and also the sensitive areas, he can be hit on his shoulder or back or what’s similar.

Now what is the non painful hitting (الضرب غير المبرح)?
The Scholars said that the non painful hitting is when you hit with a Siwak or a similar object. This was taken from Tafseer the verse in Chapter Al Nisaa:
في تفسير قوله تعالى: وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا. [النساء: 34]. فروى ابن أبي حاتم في تفسيره عن عطاء في قول الله تعالى: {واضربوهن} قال: “بالسواك ونحوه”. ورواه ابن جرير عنه قال: قلت لابن عباس: ما الضرب غير المبرح؟ قال: بالسواك ونحوه.

وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم:
وَاتَّقُوا اللهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ، فَإِنَّهُنَّ عِنْدَكُمْ عَوَانٍ، وَلَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ أَنْ لَا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ أَحَدًا تَكْرَهُونَهُ،فَإِنْ فَعَلْنَ ذَلِكَ فَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِحٍ، وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوف. رواه مسلم.
وجاء في الموسوعة الفقهية: قال المالكية، وبعض الشافعية، والحنابلة: يؤدبها بضربها بالسواك ونحوه، أو بمنديل ملفوف، أو بيده، لا بسوط، ولا بعصا، ولا بخشب؛ لأن المقصود التأديب. اهـ.

Translation:
Abi Hatem said in his Tafseer on behalf of ‘Ataa’ (عطاء):
It means to hit them by the “Siwak” or what is similar. This was reported by Imam Ibn Jareer on behalf of ‘Ataa’, he said: I asked Ibn Abbas: What is the non painful hitting? He answered: Hitting by Siwak or so.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:
Fear Allah regarding women, for they are your captives in your home, You have the right on them that they do not allow any person whom you dislike to step on your mat. However, if they do that, you are allowed to discipline them lightly. They have a right on you that you provide them with their provision and clothes, in a reasonable manner.

Ibn Abbas, Al-Hassan Al-Basri and several others said that the ayah refers to a hitting that is not violent/severe.

Also in (الموسوعة الفقهية) Scholars of the Malikiyah, Shafeyahia and Hanabilah said regarding above verse:
To correct her by hitting her with Siwak or with his hand, and not to hit his wife by a whip or a stick or a wooden object because the aim is to discipline her.

And this applies especially for stubborn kids, because hitting will increase their stubbornness, and they will turn to be aggressive and harsh when they grow up.

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